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Recent events have highlighted the significant growth edges that our country faces around systemic racism and social inequity, despite the hard-fought civil rights battles in our past. As our communities grapple with these complex issues and with how to move our society forward, parents are also faced with how to help their children understand what is going on around them in an age-appropriate way. These conversations can be difficult and uncomfortable for us to have even as adults; how do we have them with our children?
Dr. Michelle Parker is a child psychologist, an educational diversity consultant, and the Head of School at Seneca Academy, who has years of experience in navigating the issues of race and racism with both preschool- and school-aged children. In this webinar, she will provide us with a developmental framework to scaffold these conversations as well as with specific pointers about how to address difficult topics, help children feel safe, and prepare them to be upstanders in the fight for social justice.
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From Dr. Michelle Parker, child psychologist and Head of School, on June 2, 2020:
In the last few days, as I have been working hard to rebuild our “village,” I have also found myself consumed by the pain and suffering that are being reflected in our country’s reaction to the senseless killing of George Floyd and of all the victims of police violence who preceded him. We have spent the last few months focused on surviving the COVID-19 pandemic. Recent events, however, remind us that all along we have also been living with a much older pandemic of systemic racism and social injustice. As Martin Luther King, Jr., stated, “Riots are the language of the unheard.” As a society and as a community, we need to hear this pain and the inequity and history that underlies it, bridge our divides, and commit ourselves to “building villages together” that begin to address our imperfections.
Preparing our children to be agents of change starts with providing them with age-appropriate ways to understand and process the events around them. Even young children who hear parents talking or catch brief glimpses of news coverage worry about what is going on and whether they are safe. Please remember that by three months of age, children are already biased towards faces that match the race of their caregivers. By two years, children already use race to reason about people’s behaviors and, by three years, most children use race to choose playmates.
Below are several resources to use as references for how to talk to children about recent events and about race.
Here is a list of helpful books shared by a preschool parent, who states, “Some of these don’t necessarily address race, but do address kindness, acceptance, community: everything that Seneca Academy values.”
Firebird by Misty Copeland
Last Stop on Market Street by Matt de la Peña
Lovely by Jess Hong
Skin Again by bell hooks
Horrible Bear! By Ame Dyckman
Stick and Stone by Beth Ferry
Red: A Crayon’s Story by Michael Hall
Most People by Michael Leannah and Jennifer E. Morris
I Dissent: Ruth Bader Ginsburg Makes Her Mark by Debbie Levy
Stand Tall, Molly Lou Melon by Patty Lovell
Come With Me by Holly M. McGhee
Nelson Mandela by Kadir Nelson
Of Thee I Sing: A Letter to My Daughters by Barack Obama
One by Kathryn Otoshi
Be Who You Are by Todd Parr
All Are Welcome by Alexandra Penfold and Suzanne Kaufman
Hidden Figures: The True Story of Four Black Women and the Space Race by Margot Lee Shetterly
Radiant Child: The Story of Young Artist Jean-Michel Basquiat by Javaka Steptoe
Emmanuel’s Dream: A True Story of Emmanuel Ofosu Yeboah by Laurie Ann Thompson